How is the business life actually and how do you thrive? Is this normal to happen?

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  1. Wing_man

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    My name is Alex, and I'm in my early 24,

    I decided to start a little business with a pen friend and now things got really big (big idea and big problems) that sometimes I feel I can't take it anymore. Of course, there's a lot of work to do from both sides, but sometimes I get hard anxiety moments that kill my power to work and do something (so what I do that time is just in reaction). They are from some of our missunderstandings from along the way where we, were on the point to destroy our long friendship and loose everything we did so far. Because friendship has changed to 50+% business or what is this called, so was very hard to learn how to build rapport in such circustances: We decided to split the tasks and choose a "leader" to take the final decision (because there can't be 2 leaders in the same business).

    We worked 3 months and we still have 3 months left until we finish the big thing we work on.

    From my point of view for this business, I want to do something and I'm 100% for this, but the things that happened, made me aware of future possible events. So I took a break to think in detail about this issue and take a decision:

    1.Going on must come with accepting and assuming possible risks, finding solutions to solve what can be solved and give up for a while on the social life (untill wil put the thing up). And no outcome dependence (which I found I have, and figuring out now with:), but full dedication to the process (not to the outcome).

    --The outcome tends to bother me, because the surrounding environment such as parents, people... they always live in their pre-made(social conditioned) reality, which they speak out as advices and reproaches (cause what I do, don't even click in their heads) as ego-centered ("you must not become a loser" or "you must go to job instead" etc.) so this makes me uncosciously qualify to what they say, hearing this everyday or once a week.

    2.Giving up means for me, loosing and regreting an event that could have happened... which I describe as a harder life-long pain (better feel hard short-pain now). Also means giving up, going to a job like everybody and giving up on dreams (living for other's dreams). This may show myself in my friend's eyes as an untrushworthy, since we were in for everything along our friendship and none gave up.

    Main reason is that I'm concerned for my health, because there was so much stress (fear, anxety, paranoia) in such a short time, for both of us and a lot of yelling which I am so, so, so tired about - that starts to devalue myself as a person. For me I could die to accomplish the thing, but this may require some thinking which seems to require experience related information that I don't have.

    How I see this problem: It stands as a thinking paradigm shift to move ahead. But for the sake of health, this put me to think very hard, because I don't want something "bad" to happen. What I did so far to solve these conflicts: I started reading books about emotions, NLP, meditation and so many which helped me a lot and also I changed the environment which now is silent but the only thing which yeals in my head from time to time are those memories of what happened so far and axiety follows me here and kills my energy (devalues me). Also, I cut negative people from my cicles too, because they portray an idea of scarcity.

    So what I found is: This may be happening because of an untaken decision (1 and 2 mentioned above), which I have to take and keep untill the end, no matter what happens. Therefore.. the memories will make no sense anymore. So I'm going for decision one, but first I want to rethink all the "inner-game" problems.

    My great advantage is that I'm a professional and the works (from the required domains) I do are very peace of cake. Therefore, the only things left to be fixed are those memories/expectation.

    What I'm asking... did you go through this? Do you have any advice how to solve the things while moving on? And any other things; any insights etc. Thank you very much!

    P.S.: I can resist untill the last breath, no problem for that, but it is right to do so? Seems like I lost my beliefs most of the time and I have moments when I loose my trust...
     
  2. aspecialist

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    In your situation that you have your friends as business partners is very common for other business owners, the only thing is that when you have a partner in a business you cannot take action without their approval so they are. It is better to talk with them in a professional way, all of you should have equal rights in all aspects of your business. Having a business is really stressful, especially for starters, so you must be prepared in all the struggles, don't give up too soon.
     
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    If you have your friends as your business partners, you must have a big trust with them. I have heard stories wherein friends are now enemies dues to business matters. But I think the key to having a good business relationship with your friends is to think of the relationship that you have with one another as an advantage.
     
  4. MahaKarthi

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    Every business is unique even when the service may seem similar. The idea, plan and strategy are always different. The initial years are rough and once the business catches market, it becomes so very easy to sail on. What is essential is the support of good consultants such as Piterion who have some amazing services to offer to business enterprises at different stages.
     
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    The initial set up as you have explained also needs focus on the health as well as the business objectives. Fear and anxiety along with lack of sleep is not a good sign of progress so just start with relaxing exercises on a daily basis, plan your business objectives and also work towards making it happen. You can get the help of top consultants like Piterion in Germany with branches in India as well.
     

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