I wondered about this today. I shared a guest article, Getting Connected: Building Bridges for Results, at my site. It's by Rebecca Shambaugh, author of Leadership Secrets of Hillary Clinton. One of the things it talks about is being able to ask for help. She goes on to give the example of what Anne Mulcahy did when asked to take on the CEO role at Xerox. How easy do you find it to ask for help and opinions or advice from contacts? I'm not great at it. I'm always happy to do what I can for someone else too time permitting but don't like feeling that I'm intruding on anyone else's time or even perhaps overstepping the mark. That's why being able to come to Business Advice Forum is great. I feel more comfortable posting a question and hoping the person or person(s) answers it than approaching them directly. I think a lot of that has to do with my not liking pushiness or people that bleed you dry if you give them the tiniest "in". Which bring up another question. What makes a contact one that you feel you can approach directly? How do you avoid turning into a leech? Here's an example of how not to behave from my own experience of being asked for help. Talking to me once doesn't mean you can tie up every spare minute I have for two weeks solid. Neither can you badger me to look at your stuff when I don't get back to you on your timetable (not mine), send me more without asking and then get pissed off when I say I simply don't have the time nor the inclination to analyze everything you put on paper. If she's stopped after I'd looked at one small piece as I'd promised, we'd probably still be talking but she got on her huffy bike. No loss. It wasn't like I was being paid LOL. I never even got a thank you. That did sour things for me because I was trying to do someone a good turn. And luckily no-one else approached me soon after that because I would probably have said no. Anyway, I digress as usual. Please share your thoughts. Maybe we need some kind of contact etiquette guidelines laid down.