Are you a good person?

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  1. onlinekl

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    Are you a good person?

    Most people would like to think of themselves as a good person, but the sad fact is, more people are really not as good of a person as they think they are. The ten clear signs below on how to know if you are a good person can help you figure out if you are or not.

    1 - If you show empathy for others.
    2 - If you don't intentionally hurt others.
    3 - If you go out of your way to do something for other people.
    4 - If you give your time for things that don't help you. In general
    5 - If you're polite, kind and understanding when dealing with others.
    6 - If you don't wish ill-will on others
    7 - If you forgive those who harm you.
    8 - If you are always honest.
    9 - If you allow others there turn without remonstration.
     
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    From the list above the area where I feel weakest is in forgiveness. I'm not as good at that as I'd like to be, I have a long memory and feel that my life would be better if I learned to forgive more. I can forgive easily when people apologise, but when people are non-repentant I find it very difficult to forgive them, which only harms me and not them.
     
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    theres only 9 here not 10 :p

    Sometimes I fail on number 5
    If you're polite, kind and understanding when dealing with others.

    99% of the time I am but if under severe pressure or stress I can lose it and get pretty blunt with people..
     
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    Yea you should learn how to forgive those who hurt you because life goes on!!!!!!!!
     
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    If i will going to judge myself i don't know if I am good. Ofcourse we can never tell that, only other person can said that to you. But upon checking on your list i think i slightly failed on number 7. If a person harm/hurt me it will stock on my mind, but if that person ask a forgiveness i will definitely forgive that person then forget everything "But" there will be a limitation.
     
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    I got all 9 questions right,

    Ohhh, ohhh, sir do I win a price:D

    I think probably forgiveness is the hardest but I would have to contest that as a good character trait, I know it says it in the bible etc but could you really forgive someone for really serious acts.
     
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    That's too subjective if i judge myself
    It will be better to ask my enemy, they know me better....lol
     
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    Well , to be fair , I can not follow the above totally sometimes. I confess there are some people who are unselfish and maybe I am unnoticed ,but I am not so generous.
     
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    I think I can't answer all these questions as my friends and relatives they know better what person I am. Everybody can tell that he or she is nice and kind and so on.
     
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    Sorry I not follow all of them all time but sometime must be follow.
     
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    I think I am weak with the third one. I never try hard or extensive to help other people but I do try my best, because that feeling is priceless when you help or support someone.
     
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    It's very subjective isn't it, as to whether we are good or not!

    I think it depends on who you ask as to how good I am!

    I do find forgiveness a useful thing to be able to do, but if someone murdered a member of my family, not sure I could ever forgive that....

    Funnily enough they sometimes say that succesful people are driven by a desire for revenge. Be interested in people's take on that.
     
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    When you read about or listen to successful people, they will generally put a positive slant on their success and talk about the positive things that motivated them. They are less likely to talk about their negative motivations, but that doesn't mean they don't have them.

    Personally I find that I'm more motivated and energised by positive emotions, negative emotions produce negative energy, which is not healthy in the long term. I feel that I could only be successful once I have dealt with my "demons" and learned to be more positive. Other people however, are driven by such things as the desire for revenge or insecurity.
     
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    I like to think I'm a good person generally but nobody's perfect! I have my good days and bad, same as everyone else. :)

    Forgiveness I struggle with and more so if it's over something big. Small things I can forgive and forget easily, especially if I know the person was under pressure and stressed out in some way. However if you really hurt me to the core, it takes me forever to get past that. I may eventually forgive but I never forget.
     
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    Yes, i am good person. I have all above qualities. I am hardworking, intelligent and some others.
     
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    Does that include being modest;)
     
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    Wow .. I guess I'm a very very good person :)
    I answered all them and answered yes to all of them. I guess it's nice to know that I'm good :)
     

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