3 Keys to Better Small Talk Conversation

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  1. anyutan

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    Once you have made the first move and uttered the first word when making small talk - there is no turning back. You need to keep things going - at least for the next couple of minutes or so - before you can gracefully say your goodbyes and make a polite exit. So what do you talk about in the meantime? Think about the things that you yourself would like to share to a new friend and that is what you can ask the other person about. Work, family, where they live, and their hobbies or interests are some general points of discussion.

    To keep the ball rolling, you can use follow up questions to show that you are really interested with what they have to say. Restaurants, movies, music, news, the weather, traffic, favorite tourist or vacation spots are other things that you can use as small talk topics of conversation. Once you find common points of interest, things will definitely take off from there.
     
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    In Ireland small talk generally starts off with the weather and then moves on to politics and current affairs. However, in recent times our political and current affairs situation has been a tad depressing to talk about so small talk conversations are less likely to move to those topics. We probably talk about the weather because the Irish weather is so changeable and unpredictable.

    My experience is that people in other countries talk about the weather less than us, because their weather and their seasons are more regular and predictable. If the sun shines every day of summer, the weather doesn't really make for much conversation on a normal summer day :)
     
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    Thanks anyutan i will be sure to use these 3 keys also do you have any more
     
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    Thanks Fergal, nice insights from Ireland :)
    For small talks one can usually ask about family, job etc.
     
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    I guess still weather is the most widespread topic for all countries
    then people talk about money and crisis more often than before
     
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    This is a valuable skill to learn and one of the things is to keep your eyes open on the surroundings and what that person may be interested in. Asking insightful questions about these things would often do it. After all, many people do like to talk about themselves.
     

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